But when one relates to a ‘Thou’, one's whole being is involved; nothing can be withheld” (p.365).
Lambeau’s relationship to Will would be an example of an I-It relationship.
Sean is always authentic, transparent, and self-revealing in his relationship with Will.
Equally, he resists all temptation to diagnose him.
Even when he talks about Will’s past traumas, he uses common words instead of psychoanalytical categories.
Over the sessions Sean creates an alliance with Will’s innermost being – the part of him that had secretly desired to be discovered.
Although it is not entirely clear which school Sean follows, we can safely say that this therapy bears many marks of an existentialist-humanistic treatment.
Indeed, the encounter between the two men serves as a beautiful illustration of the underlying premises of the existentialist approach, and especially of what Buber calls an ‘I-Thou’ relationship.
With each ‘Thou’, and with each moment of relationship, the ‘I’ is created anew.
When relating to ‘It’ (whether to a thing or to a person made into a thing) one holds back something of oneself: one inspects it from many possible perspectives; one categorizes it, analyzes it, judges it, and decides upon its position in the grand scheme of things.